My Nan | June 16, 2010

A couple of weeks ago my nan Sylvia, or "Tiny" as everyone knew her, had an accidental fall in her home, hitting the back of her head.  She was taken to hospital that evening and we sat with her as doctors assessed her situation throughout the night. At this stage it didn't appear to be too serious as she was still conscious and  responding well to all the Nurse's questions. However, she took a turn for the worse the following morning and was immediately taken into surgery.

In the following week, we visited her regularly while we waited for her to rouse. We sat with her, talked to her, held her hand and kept her company. Despite our hopes that she would fully recover, Nan never woke up. She passed away almost a week later, on Friday June 4 surrounded by close family.

A month ago, to this day, Nan celebrated her 80th birthday and I was also extremely thankful that she was around to witness and celebrate my wedding earlier this year.

With a completely loveable nature and an eternal smile on her face, my nan will be missed by many. She was humble, giving, always put others before herself and constantly helped those in need.  She was the kind of person who would buy things, not because she needed them but simply to help out people with small, struggling businesses.

Her passing was very sudden and completely unexpected as she was in relatively good health for her age.

Admittedly, I am still in shock over the events of the past couple of weeks and trying to arrive at an acceptance of the fact that sometimes these things, though seemingly unfair and sad, are simply meant to be.

I take comfort in the fact that she did not suffer long and left us peacefully.

I appreciate your patience over the past couple of weeks as I've had to take some time away from updating my blog and answering emails to deal with this difficult situation. A big thank-you to those who sent me kind words during this time.

Life must go on. I am happy to be returning again to my blog with regular updates.

{ photo taken at my wedding, March 28 of this year, by Jonathan Ong }

XO
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Comments

  1. Hugs to you Amy, sending warm wishes to you an your family
  2. Maggie | Jun 16, 2010
    My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time. Feel better, you will start to feel normal again after awhile. Hugs.
  3. Joanna | Jun 16, 2010
    My sincere condolences for your loss.
  4. Moz | Jun 16, 2010
    I'm so sorry about your nan. Sylvia sounds like she was a great lady.

    Nice to have you back xx
  5. So sorry to hear about your Nan, try and focus on the good times! I was equally as shocked last year when my very healthy 84 year old Grandad died. You will have the strength somewhere to get through this. Thinking of you! Your Nan looks like such a lovely lady x
  6. Heidi | Jun 16, 2010
    I'm very sorry for your loss and very glad your back posting.
    Heidi
  7. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Take care.

    Marie
  8. Rachel | Jun 16, 2010
    How lucky you are to have had such a wonderful Nan. The memories can never be taken from you. As the shock and grief fade the memories grow, watered by the love you shared. ***Hugs***
  9. la | Jun 16, 2010
    So sorry, I am sure she is looking down on you and very proud.
    Lovely to have you back

    tayla. x
  10. Julia | Jun 16, 2010
    A beautiful lady. Take all the time you need.
  11. Hi Amy, it's been a while since I've been following your blog, but never posted a comment. I can't help to post today to send you a big hug. Your nan looked in love with you in that pic, she still looks at you exactly that way, she's just in another place.
    Hugs,
    Patrizia
  12. I am so sorry for your loss!
  13. Hi Amy,

    I'm another fan of your lovely blog who hasn't left a comment until now. I read your post with tears in my eyes and just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. My lovely Nan is 95 and I dread to think what my world would be like without her in it.

    Take care.
  14. Monnie | Jun 16, 2010
    Amy, I'm so sorry for your loss :( She looks at you with such pride and love in that photo, I hope that memory never fades. Thoughts with you and your family xxx
  15. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Your Nan sounds like she was a wonderful person and a beautiful soul, you are lucky to have had such a lovely lady in your life. Much love and light to you and your family at this time xx
  16. So sorry for your loss Amy. My prayers are with you and your family.
  17. a sad new... hopefully, whatever the sadness, life goes on, and people stay in the heart. take your time, we will be here.
  18. So very sorry to hear of your loss. I truly hope that your fond memories of your Nan with help you through this difficult time.
  19. so sorry for your loss!!
  20. I don't know you personally...just through your blog...but this post made me cry. I can tell you love her so much. How wonderful to celebrate such a beautiful life - of your Nan. And I'm so sorry for you loss.
    xoxo MMW
  21. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear. I lost my grandmother almost a year ago and the healing takes a lot of time. My thoughts are with you.
  22. JCH | Jun 17, 2010
    Sorry for your loss. I feel your pain as I lost my grandfather just a week before you lost your grandmother. Take comfort that she did not suffer, that she is now your angel in heaven, and that she would want you to live life to the fullest as she did. Warm Wishes to you...you have a wonderful blog!
  23. MrsADS | Jun 17, 2010
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
  24. I am so, so sorry for your loss. There just aren't words for times such as these. I have prayed for comfort and peace for you and your family as you wander through the maze of grief that seems to follow the loss of someone we love so dear.
  25. So sorry to hear your sad news.

    XO
    Lenore
  26. Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. Hope that lovely new husband of yours is looking after you x
  27. Hi. I've been following your blog for a few months now, but this if my first time leaving a comment. I am always drawn to reach out when other bloggers share something as personal as you have shared here today. Take solace in the memories you have of your nan and that her loved ones were nearby in the end. Time will heal the heart and solidify the memories.
  28. You can rest assured that your nan is living on through you. I can't think of a more giving person than you. Thanks for all the inspiration you give through your blog.
  29. Laura Arcoverde | Jun 17, 2010
    Amy,

    I lost my grandmother, the person that rased me, two years ago and I'm still missing her so much. The confort commes from the love she always gave me and from the fact that she is alive inside of me someway.

    Be strong!

    Sincerely,
    Laura Arcoverde - Rio de Janeiro - Brazil
  30. I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandmother - be strong and take comfort in the loved ones around you.

    Take Care.
  31. I'm very sorry to hear that your beautiful Nan passed away. xx
  32. My thoughts are with you during this hard time - so sorry for your loss x
  33. Melanie | Jun 17, 2010
    Dear Amy,
    I am so very sorry for your huge loss.
    Take care x
  34. Hi Amy,

    It was an initial excitement this morning when I saw your RSS feed was highlighted, a new post!!

    Then sadness, and a feeling of familiarity as I was reminded of the love for my grandparents.

    It is a loss that we feel so deeply at our age (not that I am assuming anything about your age, just guessing it may be in the vicinity of mine!) because we have had so many, many years to know our grandparents and been blessed with their presence in many stages of our lives.

    It was also quite emotional for me at the moment because I have my grandfather in hospital as a result of a fall as well. It is this experience that has driven me to begin volunteering recently with the Brain Injury Association...in the hope that I can make a difference to the lives of our grandparents by raising awareness of falls and their devastating impact.

    Anyway, enough from me, I send my very genuine empathy to you and your loved ones who will miss the blessing of having your Nan Sylvia in your lives.

    x Lisa.
  35. Lynda | Jun 17, 2010
    A beautiful tribute to your "Tiny". I didn't know her for a long time, but she was warm and loving. I still feel her hugs.
  36. "She was the kind of person who would buy things, not because she needed them but simply to help out people with small, struggling businesses."

    This one sentence says so much about the amazing lady your nan must have been. Best wishes to you and your family.
  37. Carrie | Jun 17, 2010
    I am so sorry for your loss
  38. Thanks so much for all your warm and supportive comments and *hugs*. You have no idea how comforting these are to me at this time, especially to hear of similar stories in your own lives. I'm so appreciative to have a forum where I can pay a tribute to my Nan and tell many others about what she was like and how special she was.

    Thanks to those who have been reading my blog for awhile and felt compelled to comment here for the first time- it's lovely to hear from you and much appreciated! xo

    Cheers,
    Amy
  39. So sorry to hear about the crappy, sudden loss. What a terrific smile she has!! Lots of positive mental vibes being sent to you and your family.
  40. Hi Amy,

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    Your Nan was a lovely person; she came to me at the wedding and said "young man, have you eaten?" which reminded me of my grandma. We talked about singapore and the lovely food. She was so pleasant, it was an absolute joy to talk to her. I remember telling my friends after the wedding how I met your grandma and how sweet she was to me.

    Hope all is well. Take care, my prayers are with you and your family :)

    Jon
  41. i'm so sorry for your loss. You Nan sounds like she was a very caring person, she was very lucky to have been surrounded by people that loved her dearly when she passed.
    my heart goes out to you.
  42. Emily | Jun 17, 2010
    I'm so sorry to hear about your nan. I also lost my Nan recently, and I hate to think that you are feeling the same way I did. She looks like an amazing person. Lots of love to you and your family

    Emily
  43. I'm so sorry to hear about your Nan. Hugs to you!
  44. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. How wonderful that she was able to share your big day.

    Take as much time as you need, we'll still be here whenever you're ready.
  45. Hi Amy

    My thoughts are with you and your family during this very difficult time.
  46. niccas | Jun 17, 2010
    I am so sorry for your loss. You should take all the time you need.
  47. Amy you are in my thoughts, and have been since you took a break from your blog. I'm sorry for your Nan's passing, may you find comfort in your beautiful memories of her. x
  48. Amy - sending you and your family much love and hugs at this sad time. Leanne xx
  49. Sorry to hear your news :-( Family first
  50. WOW! I'm in LOVE with your blog...I just found it and it's already a new favorite. <3
  51. your big heart has a lot of space. she will be in there forever <3
  52. My deepest condolences to you and your family. What a beautiful woman and such a lovely tribute to her. Best wishes and lot's of love. xoxo
  53. I am so glad you are back- and so so so very sorry about your Nan. I really, truly do believe that the ones we love never die- they are always with us, and shine through us onto others. Take care. Did I mention I'm glad you're back?
  54. I'm so sorry to hear about your Nan. She will live on with your memories and traditions. Take care of yourself.
  55. Maria H | Jun 19, 2010
    I read all your posts via google reader and have never commented but just had to send a hug your way. I lost my grandmother suddenly a year ago and feel for you deeply. Never an easy time...

    all the best and hope that you enjoy your memories and cherish all the moments you had....
  56. Adelina | Jun 19, 2010
    Hi Amy
    I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of your Nan. I lost my mother unexpectedly 3 months ago, you'll have your good moments & you'll have your bad. Your nan will always be in your heart & be grateful for all the beautiful memories you have of her. Take care and thank you for coming back.
  57. many many hugs and thoughts and prayers are sent your way.
  58. Pavla | Jun 20, 2010
    Hi Amy,
    so sorry about your Nan. Take care of yourself.
    Pavla
  59. my prayers and thoughts are with you... i wish you peace at this difficult time.
  60. you nan sounds so wonderful! i am so sorry you're going through such a sad time, its so hard when something like this happens so suddenly. I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your family and sending a big hug all the way from london x
  61. Thinking of you and wishing you and your family peace and wonderful memories of a lady who, by all accounts, lived well, laughed often and loved much.
  62. I am sorry for your loss & send my condolences to you & your family.
  63. Stella | Jun 27, 2010
    What sad news. Ur Nan sounds like she was an amazing and well loved lady. You have given us a beautiful tribute to her in sharing this. Thankyou for reminding us of the preciousness of life. Take care.
  64. i'm so sorry for your loss... your Nan sounds like she was an incredible person. i'm so happy that she was surrounded by love in her last moments. blessings to you as you remember her.
  65. Angeli | Jul 8, 2010
    Hi Amy,

    I am a big fan of your site and I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

    My condolences to you and your family. I grew up with my LOLA (as we call our grandmothers in the Philippines) and I couldn't imagine the pain of losing her.
  66. Flavia | Jul 23, 2010
    Dear Amy
    I’ve been following your blog for a while, and now I heard about your Nan I decided to write to you.
    I’m from Argentine, south America. But live in Spain since eight years ago.
    I love your weeding party. I'm divorced now, but if I get married again I hope to organize something similar to yours. I still believe in love!
    Your blog is so lovely, and so you are.
    When you write transmit feelings, and those who read it feel that sweetness.
    I was so sorry to hear about your Nn, but as many people said, she can be proud of you and sure she is still looking at you like in your wedding day.
    Please continue showing us the way you see life, is inspiring.
    Best wishes!
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