Surprise... We Got Married! Part II: The Story & The Styling | April 15, 2010
So you've probably heard that Mark and I cheekily surprised all our guests with a civil wedding ceremony during our 'engagement' party. Well, the following article contains the whole story along with all the sweet little details of the event, styled by yours truly with the help of some very talented folk.
Just in case you're looking to create a similar style of event in Melbourne, I've also provided a detailed account of where to source all the bits and pieces and have compiled a list of some of the creatives in the industry you should know.
THE DRESS
I wore my mother's 30 year old floral wedding dress accompanied by an Alannah Hill floral hairpiece and vintage-style pearl white shoes each topped with a cute little rosette.
HAIR AND MAKE-UP
The gorgeous and talented Julie Dammery of Beautique Creative did a wonderful job. She created a very soft, natural and beautiful look for me.
THE STYLING
I chose 'simple', 'rustic', 'recycled', 'vintage' and 'casual' as the key themes of our wedding 'picnic'. Wanting to capture a fresh, spring feel I set bright warm reds, oranges, pinks and yellows ablaze against a rustic landscape of wooden furniture, vintage crates, wine barrels, an odd assortment of collected jars and and bottles and bamboo plates and cutlery. Guests were advised a dress code of 'smart casual' to maintain the relaxed and understated tone of the event.
THE SETTING
A series of pop-up pagoda marquees were set up around the edge of one half of a tennis court. In the middle were four large umbrellas. This added an open, outdoor feel while still protecting us from the intermittent drizzle that occurred throughout the day.
THE GUESTS ARRIVE
At 2pm, Mark and I stood under a pretty cream-coloured royal marquee set up at the front of the event, greeting our guests as they arrived.
Because we hosted it in the backyard of my husband's parents place, it created a much more personal and intimate atmosphere and allowed us a few days to set up so that we had time to refine the details.
Upon arriving, a lot of our guests may have thought that there was quite a lot of effort put into what was essentially just supposed to be an 'engagement' party.
THE FOOD
Our caterers were Atlantic On Site. Their food was delicious and stylishly and creatively presented. They worked well with us to customise the presentation to fit with the theme. Guests raved about their food!
The delicious savouries consisted of simple, rustic fare with a home made feel. Highlights included some handmade chips in boxes made from magazine paper. The presentation of these was a perfect fit for my 'recycled' theme. I sourced the round wooden bread boards used for the vegatable antipasto and cheeses from Market Import.
THE BUFFET
I absolutely love how the buffet turned out visually. It had a rustic and casual feel about it with the overhanging flowers adding a touch of elegance.
THE DESSERTS
The lemon meringues were to-die-for. A clear favourite among guests. The creative little 'textured lollipops' in various colours and flavours had a very light and foamy, marshmallow-like quality and were a delight to taste.
FLORAL STYLING
A creative arrangement of cheerful and warm-toned flowers in hanging glass bottles floated magically above the buffet and was the chief focal point of the event.
Flowers were also casually placed in the vast array of jars and bottles of varying shapes and sizes and arranged haphazardly across picnic benches. Gerberas, roses, strawberry fields, gloriosa, tulips, billy buttons, green tricks, sunflowers and dahlias were among the flower types present.
Flower credits go to Melanie from Cecilia Fox. Her stunning hanging bottles stole the show. They were gorgeous! She also was a great help with all the other flower arrangements throughout the whole space. The vast majority of bottles scattered throughout the event were hired from Georgeous but I also added a few from my own collection.
THE ANNOUNCEMENT
At 3pm, Mark grabs everyone's attention and begins his speech, thanking everybody for coming and relating stories about how we met and how we were friends for many years before we eventually got our acts together and became a couple. At the conclusion of his speech, he casually lets it slip that we are going to be honouring our commitment to each other in the form of a civil wedding ceremony here today before all our guests.
THE REACTION
The collective gasp, shocked and delighted faces, raised arms and exclamations such as "You sly dog!" were pure gold! I wish I could live in that moment forever!
THE CEREMONY
We spontaneously chose a spot amongst our guests to conduct a relaxed and unrehearsed ceremony. Our celebrant Deborah Cannon did a fantastic job especially dealing with our tendency to erupt in silliness!
THE KISS
You've probably already seen these beautiful images here of our first kiss as husband and wife.
THE HUGS
These candid shots below of the congratulatory hugs after the ceremony and toast are among my favourites of the day!
THE WEDDING 'CAKE' - SCONES WITH JAM AND CREAM
I'm a sucker for warm scones topped with generous dollops of jam and cream. So simple and homey, these had to be the 'wedding cake'.
Once the toast was given and everyone had a little champagne, the scones were handed out to guests.
I created little paper trays in 'picnic' gingham and lined these with Cath Kidston paper napkins in kitschy patterns. The trays were personalised with our names and wedding date. You may recognise the heart design from this previous freebie. I also asked Atlantic to top them off with a couple of fresh strawberries for an extra splash of colour!
THE LEMONADE
The 'homemade lemonade with elderflower water' by Atlantic was simply delicious and, in true recycled fashion, provided in jam jars. Manila tags tied to the top of each jar allowed guests to write their names and re-use their jar throughout the afternoon. These were topped off with pinky red and white vintage-style paper straws which I bought online from Lulus's Cupcake Boutique. The lemonade sat in glass jugs atop wine barrels as part of 'self service' stations set up at various points throughout the event space. The jam jars were hired through Georgeous. Barrels hired through The Design Depot.
GUEST POSTCARDS
Our guestbook were Cavallini and Co. postcards from Zetta Florence depicting various flowers and vegetables. Guests would write us a little message on the back and leave them in this vintage-style wooden luggage.
BITS AND PIECES
Chinese Lanterns from Scarlet Jones
Faux vintage typewriter from Provincial Home Living
Wooden Pencils from Oxfam
The cutest little stools ever, hired through Georgeous.
Vintage Crates hired through Georgeous
Assorted flowers from local florists and from Cecilia Fox
Bamboo sporks with matching round side-plates from Bambu, ordered online from Greenfeet.
Apples from the local supermarket!
FURNITURE HIRE
A combination of outdoor picnic benches from The Design Depot and three legged stools and matching round tables , hired through Georgeous helped create the relaxed, outdoor 'picnic' feel.
THE MUSIC
We treated guests to nostalgic hits from The Beatles, Burt Bacharach, The Beach Boys, The Monkees, Doris Day, Dusty Springfield, Elvis, you get the idea....
THE PROCESS
Taking on the role of 'event stylist' for my wedding was initially a challenging one. I knew exactly what I wanted, envisaged the style and all the little details in my head but needed the right contacts and sources to make it happen. At first, I thought creating an event like this was impossible in Melbourne- all I could find were props that were either corporate modern/minimalist or overly 'grand' and traditional. That was until I met Georgie.
Although I didn't necessarily hire Georgie Kaye in an event planning capacity for this event, I would highly recommend her and her company "Georgeous". Especially if you're not a stylist yourself and are looking for an event management company that provides highly creative, quirky and unique events.
When I inadvertantly discovered her while searching for reasonably priced fake grass hire (something of a rare breed in Melbourne), things magically fell into place. I essentially hired a lot of the rustic furniture and bits and pieces through Georgeous but as far as I was concerned the service went above and beyond 'hired goods'. Georgie also provided tips, advice and ideas, actually physically helped out with some of the setting up (her removalist guy Chris put in such a great effort to get everything in place and was such a perfectionist!) and provided me access to a fantastic floral designer, Her passion, creativity and positive energy were incredibly inspiring and made her a delight to work with.
THE PHOTOGRAPHY
The other major hurdle was finding a suitable photographer. Luckily, on Polka Dot Bride I discovered Jonathan Ong. With a keen eye for composition and colour and a passion for detail, Jonathan and I spoke the same language and therefore worked really well together. I think it's so important to be able to capture not only the results of all the hard work that went out into creating a beautiful event but also to capture all those special and magical moments that make up the wedding experience. Jonathan did a brilliant job with both of these tasks.
Cheers Jon! Look forward to working with you again in the future!
LAST BUT NOT LEAST
I really need to credit the whole family for their valued time and effort in putting this whole event together. My husband and all our parents helped with dealing with vendors, setting up the space, running around to buy odds and ends, floral arrangements, creating the origami heart invitations, sourcing the drinks ... the list goes on. Fantastic team effort!
Stay tuned, more pics of the photo shoot with Mark and I as a newly married couple to come.
{ All photos by Jonathan Ong }
Comments
Thanks for sharing all your creativity.
I love it all.
Most beautiful wedding I have seen this year - full of soul and exactly the kind I had for my wedding (minus the surprise not to give my dad another heart issue-lol!)but relaxed and among good friends and good music.
Congratulations and best wishes to the both of you!
congrats :) xo
I really love it! I wish I married this way.
I love the picture's of the kiss!
And the picture of the anncouncement and the hugs almost made me cry, I love the emotion that's been captured in those pictures.
Well done, and congratulations on your wedding!
Best Wishes!
And i love all the little touches, and the food - it all looks delicious.
ps I blogged about it over here http://arielgordonjewelry.blogspot.com/
How did you decide you wanted a surprise wedding? Did you know all along that your engagement party was actually going to be your wedding? Was it a complete surprise to your parents/families as well?
Again, wow! You'll remember this the rest of your life, and deservedly so!
LOVE LOVE LOVE all the details! so pretty!
totally impressed my the originality and small details. LOVE.
xx
Many congratulations this is one of the most fabulous weddings I have ever heard about or have had the privilege of seeing the photographs as well as the process of...
Woot! Woot!
xo
What a beautiful wedding. We still want to come and visit. All our love to you and your families.
Jacob and Tiffany
Jetsetting Joyce
You look so lovely and cute together. And what a beautiful wedding and stunning photographs!
Congratulations and many wishes !
Rupesh
Im soooo curious how you made the little scone trays coz I am serving scones and jam and cream at my wedding...wanna share any tips? :)
xo
and the surprise wedding ceremony is genius!
by the way, jonathan is a friend of mine and he's such an amazing photographer..so glad u chosen him for your wedding!
congrats to u and ur husband! :)
This is just the most beautiful, inspiring, intimate wedding - I love all of the details and the photography is so lovely!
Eat drink Chic is a new discovery for me and I am loving all of your posts and the pretty look of your site.
Thank you for sharing such gorgeous insights, your style is oh so chic and I am looking forward to more and more!
Kindest,
Lisa.
what was the time frame for all of the planning and setting up?
congratulations!
Wishing you many happy years together.
I am in gobsmacked awe!!!!
words cannot describe how amazing I think everything about this is, so I wont. I just wanted to say it, so you know.
GAHHH!!!!!!!! congratulations!!!
never have i seen a more beautiful smile than when groom kisses the bride
lots of love from hk
and i can already see a happily-ever-after coming thru
Congratulations!
Best wishes for you and your husband, for your very beautiful wedding, congratulations!!!
PS: Congratulations on such a beautiful, beautiful surprise :)
Such beautiful wedding photos. Adore!
x
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What an awesome wedding theme u had! I love all the sweet details you decorated for your wedding! Hope you dont mind me sharing this gorgeous wedding post with my readers. Wish you and your life partner have an awesome marriage! :)
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Congratulations!
Oh, and even though you make it seem like something simple and spontaneous, I can see all the work you put on it...
From the food choice, to the cake idea, the flower vases...everything is wonderful!
From one lady that once lived in the beautiful Australia!
I'm so following your blog!
Congratulations on your marriage. This is definitely THE WEDDING of the season!
Well done, congrat and I wish you a life full of love and joy.
Ylenia
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Best wishes,
Lexi :)
Love.Obsess.Inspire.
xo leanna
thanks for sharing!
xox
polli
happy ever after **hugz
....................
lots'a*luv
Melissa.M
Thanks for sharing all of your creative ideas, i will be back again!
Signed...
One Moss to another!
You got style, wauuu it looks amazing.
Good luck.
Cheers,
Maria-Louisa
michelle from california
love the colours and the idea for your wedding
As a budding creative myself, I am left with my head buzzing full of ideas and inspirations after stumbling across your site and your stunning wedding photos! Well done, a truly individual and amazingly beautiful event!
Cheers!
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2nd, I absolutely love the surprise wedding at the arranged engagement party !!! How perfect!!
I will think about a winter one for us !!!
xoxo
Just gold.
Caro, from Bordeaux
Love your website as a whole too!
So beautiful! The styling is incredible, the colour and tone of the photography is gorgeous, everyone looks so happy and it must have been such a fun day!
Congratulations on bringing such beautiful ideas to the table. You're an inspiration!
Thank you
Congratulations again, i adore your blog , but i think this post it's the best!!
I especially loved your postcard guest book and used that idea for a friend's wedding. Details seen here: http://thewholeenchelleada.blogspot.com/2011/03/melissa-parkers-wedding.html
Congratulations and thank you for the continued inspiration!
Yuriko @ Vintage Origami
It's the most perfect wedding 1 could ever have, so personal & inspiring!
xx
-m
(just found your blog--wow! so glad I am here and I will be back)
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I'm food lover and very excited after reading food arrangement.
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Now I wish I could get married again ;)
what a beautiful inspiring website
DHE
the style, color, everything!
it was so you.
:D
Btw, I'm jane from the Philippines.
i found your blog and fell in love with it.
Especially, the "about me" of this blog. it was so inspiring :)
I wish you both a very happy and fun forever!
I wish you both a very happy and fun forever!!
Also love your website - I'm a new follower now!
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(was looking for activities for me and my daughter to do) and I had to take a peek on this 'Surprise Wedding'.
I LOVE everything about your special day; the colours, the feel, it seems so relaxed, fun and honest. I had to show my husband. I smiled through it all. Thank you for sharing your day with us, and as late as it is...still, congrats.
I was totally charmed by everything : the idea of a "surprise wedding", you (love makes you sparkle!), the beauty of your couple, the decoration, your creativity and taste, the quality of the picts (congrats to Jonathan Ong, he really has an amazing eye!), and this overhanging flowers wall above the buffet, WOW !!! I loved everything.
I'm thinking to take some deco ideas one day, when I'll make a party :)
Your blog definitely is a huuuuge crush :-}
Keep doing what you do, transmit what you give and be who you are, cause you just seem amazing ! And Mark and Sukie too ^^
All the best and love to you in the future :)
Love from Switzerland
Roxane